Do you find yourself happily married with two kids, always vacationing as a family? Does this sound like your life? If so, keep reading.
You’ve probably heard someone say, “It was so much fun when I was single, but now that I’m married and have kids, things have changed.” For many, once a relationship deepens or a family grows, self-care takes a backseat. The needs of others often take priority, even if it means sacrificing something that once brought you joy. For many, solo travel is one of the first things that get sacrificed.
Society doesn’t make it easier either. The moment you mention traveling alone after marriage or kids, the raised eyebrows and unsolicited comments begin. “How can you enjoy yourself alone?” or “Won’t you feel guilty leaving your kids behind?” These judgmental remarks are all too common.
But take a moment to reflect: Are you holding yourself back because of societal pressure or fear of how your family might cope without you? If so, it’s time for a change.
Suppressing your passion—especially something as fulfilling as solo travel—does no good. Neglecting what you love can harm your mental well-being, and in the long run, it can even affect your relationships.
Why Solo Travel is Important
Imagine an Indian household where a young woman asks her parents, “Can I visit Goa with my college friends?” or says, “I’m going on a solo trip to Himachal Pradesh, could you lend me some money?” The typical response: “After marriage, you can go wherever you want, not before!”
Then, after some years, when she gets married, she has a “permanent travel partner” for life. But when does she get to explore the world on her own? More than men, women often have to give up their dreams and hobbies. However, regardless of gender or relationship status, everyone should consider solo travel, and experts strongly encourage it.
Absy Sam, a counselling psychologist from Mumbai, explains to India Today that solo travel offers a chance to explore your preferences, dislikes, goals, and visions. It fosters a sense of autonomy and freedom, which are crucial for personal growth.”
In the Indian context, where societal norms emphasize collective decision-making, marriage or relationships are often tied to responsibility. A solo trip becomes a form of self-care, allowing you to nurture your individuality while still being part of a partnership,” she adds.
Ruchi Ruuh, a relationship counsellor from Delhi, highlights that solo travel helps maintain a sense of self in relationships, which is crucial for healthy dynamics. “Healthy relationships are built on differentiation, which means celebrating your individuality while coming together as a couple. Solo travel allows people to understand their personalities better,” she says.
Mental Health Benefits of Solo Travel
Solo travel can be transformative for mental health. It breaks the routine, reduces stress, and offers new perspectives. Absy Sam points out that Indian women, in particular, can feel empowered through solo trips, reclaiming agency over their lives.”
It’s about independence and self-reliance, giving women a sense of empowerment,” she adds.
Strengthening Trust and Space
Solo travel doesn’t mean distancing yourself from your partner. In fact, it strengthens trust. Ruuh explains, “Solo travel challenges partners to respect each other’s need for autonomy while creating security in the relationship.”
Sam adds that solo trips provide much-needed “me-time,” promoting healthy emotional boundaries and strengthening the partnership.
However, not all partners may be comfortable with the idea of solo travel. Sam recommends open communication, explaining the purpose and benefits of the trip.”
Some partners may resist out of insecurity or fear of losing control. Address these concerns with empathy and clarity,” she advises. This approach fosters understanding and trust.
Solo Travel with Kids at Home
Having kids doesn’t mean you must give up on solo trips. Ruuh suggests involving family members or hiring help during your absence and starting with shorter trips to nearby destinations. Sam believes solo travel sets an important example for children about the value of self-care. “When parents take time for themselves, they return refreshed and better equipped to handle family responsibilities,” she says.
Tips for Balancing Solo and Couple Vacations
Balancing solo trips with couple vacations requires thoughtful planning. Ruuh and Sam share some practical advice:
1. Plan in advance: Alternate between solo trips and couple vacations.
2. Discuss finances: Budget carefully to accommodate both types of trips.
3. Stay connected: Share updates via pictures or calls during your solo journey.
4. Communicate clearly: Set expectations around the frequency and purpose of trips.
Incorporating solo travel into your life, even with a partner or children, can foster personal growth, mental well-being, and healthier relationships. It’s all about finding balance and making time for yourself, no matter your relationship status.
